Why does he do that?

I am in the middle of reading the book Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. He does an incredible job of explaining the dynamics of domestic violence and attempting to explain why abusive men are abusive.

Chapter 10 is a great chapter title "Abusive Men as Parents." At one point he discusses the mixed messages that society sends mothers who are victims of domestic violence and he said something that really struck me. He talks about how when mothers choose to stay with their abusive partners, child protection officials threaten to take their children away and claim that they are failing to protect their children. But then when a mother leaves her abusive partner and goes to the court regarding custody and physical placement, the court tells her that she can't keep the children away from their father. Washington County goes even further and says that 50/50 placement is in the best interests of the child. So it is not OK to stay and let her children be exposed to the violence but once you leave, you have no choice but to allow your children be exposed to the violence. How does that make any sense?

"Domestic Violence Claimed 58 Lives in Wisconsin" in 2010

Linked here is the Wisconsin Domestic Violence Homicide Report for 2010 put together by WCADV.  Hopefully, it makes people more aware of what is happening to so many victims so that victims can find people to reach out to before it is too late.

Charging Conferences

Washington County does things differently than many other counties in Wisconsin.  One difference that I appreciate is charging conferences.  After every arrest related to domestic violence, a charging conference is held (typically within one business day).  At the charging conference, the victim has the chance to meet with the a victim/witness advocate at the DA's office to give their input, tell their story, and know before they leave whether their perpetrator will be charged, given a citation, or warned.

Time Management

With my new position, I am really struggling with balancing my schedule and not burning out.  There are so many people who need legal assistance and only so much time in a day.  And prior to this I really haven't had much of a schedule to manage (at least a schedule that I could control).  In my last position, it was only a couple appointments a week at most.

I sat down with my executive director on Tuesday to discuss my problem and we had a good brainstorming session.  I also briefly talked to a former colleague and attorney who told me that it takes practice.

So here are some thoughts and I encourage any other suggestions.

If a hearing is scheduled for 2:00 p.m., I need to not attempt to do charging conferences at 1:30 as well and see if one of my colleagues is available to attend those charging conferences.

I would like to structure my schedule so that I am only providing legal information on legal matters besides restraining orders only a couple of times a week.  Ideally I would like to set up a schedule where these appointments are scheduled at a certain time every week (every Thursday evening and Tuesday mornings) and only agree to see a set number of people each week.

I need to make sure I'm doing adequate screening over the phone so that I refer cases that are beyond me to an attorney right away.  I think I do this pretty well but it something I need to keep in the back of my mind.

I need to block of some time soon to organize my office and set up a better system for keeping track of current clients, resources, etc.

I also hope that my supervisor can find a legal advocate who I can connect with for more ideas.

Well, that's a start.

Monsters in the Closet

This video speaks for itself.